Parents Vs Faith

Shortened Question:

Provide some advice on the dilemma between loyalty to parents and conviction in faith


I`m in such a situation where I cannot say anything to my parents because my mother she reacts to everything negatively. And the same goes with my boyfriend; his parents are the same. And I haven’t even informed him that I pray namaz and I do dua to Allah Taala and I turn only towards Allah for everything. He has no idea about all these. Because may be he will think that I`m doing all these for his love. But no the truth is different. I don’t know how and where and why I`m attached to Islam so much. I`ve started doing all this on my own will. My muslim friends have helped me a lot learning different dua than how to read namaz. And they are still guiding me and except my friends and me no one has idea about it. It is my belief that whatever I turn towards Allah for he has always helped me out. Even before making decision of proceeding further I seek Allah`s help and so far I`m receiving positive response of my prayers. Just hoping he shows us the way and helps me. Waiting for the right time. In sha allah he answers my prayers and I`m married to my boyfriend. Ameen


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

We understand you are at crossroads between loyalty to your parents and conviction in Islam. We also acknowledge the challenges that come along with two sensitive and irreconcilable ideologies.

Your faith, conviction and hope in Allah is admirable. May Allah preserve this and provide you with steadfastness. However, seek help through patience and prayer[1]. It is incumbent upon you to keep gaining knowledge and befriend and remain with those who may assist you in faith[2]. May the Al-Mighty increase your passion for His religion and facilitate your learning. Verily, Allah does not put in vain any efforts of those who seek goodness[3]. Maintain hope in the assistance of Allah as only the believers do not lose hope in the mercy of Allah[4].The following supplication may help you in faith:

يا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوب ‘ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِي علَي دِيْنِّك

Translation: Oh Controller of the hearts, make my heart steadfast upon Your religion [5]

Islam is a pure religion and enjoins all forms of purity. As such an intimate relationship outside wedlock is regarded as impermissible [6]. We advise you to purify your relationship with the man in reference through nikah (marriage). We acknowledge the weight behind all these mammoth steps, however Allah guides those who take right steps for His pleasure[7], He creates ease in all affairs submitted to him[8] and with every one difficulty there is multiple ease[9]. Be strong and courageous and hopefully you will ride the waves of challenges confronting you with ease and comfort.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Hanif Yusuf Patel

Student Darul Iftaa

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.


[1] [Al-Qur`an: 2:45]

[2] [Al-Qur`an: 9:119]

[3] [Al-Qur`an: 12: 90]

[4] [Al-Qur`an: 12-87]

[5] [At-Tirmidhi: 2140]

[6] [Al-Qur`an: 23:5-6; 70:29-30]

[7] [Al-Qur`an: 29:69]

[8] [Al-Qur`an: 65:2-3]

[9] [Al-Qur`an: 94:5-6]

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