Hurmat al-Musaharah
Shortened Question:
Is the marriage still valid or has Huramat-e-Musaharah become applicable in the given situation?
Question:
Muhtaram Mufti Saheb. I would like to have a clarification about the following issue:
My father in law grabbed my hand which was under me ornie and kissed the back of it and then released my hand slowly, slowly sliding it down the fingers. My father in law is saying he didn’t do it with lust. Sometimes he makes strange comments like: “your eyes are beautiful, you must give them to me”; “your skin is becoming fairer and beautiful”; “you should not wear jilbab and do not cover your hair in front of me.” He made these statements after this act on several occasions. A point to be noted is that, I don’t feel at peace after the notice of its gravity and I felt it very strange. So what is the position of this Nikah?
Further details on being asked certain questions:
The father in law undertook this action casually and it happened only once. Normally he meets his daughters in law quite respectfully. The f in law is known as woman attracted but as far as his d in law are concerned he is quite respectful to them; especially as the mother in law is also around. This action happened only once so there is apparently no specific reason for not accepting the f in law’s word. Apparently there seems no ulterior motive from the d in law against the f in law and there has been no conflict between them two. The husband is unaware of most of these remarks. In fact when the husband found out about this action, he immediately went to his father to warn him and firmly told him not to come at his house in his absence. There are no witnesses to this action and statements. It seemed to the husband that his father said that he did not touch with lust but now after about 4 and a years the father is totally denying the fact that he held her hand.
So these are some details concerning the matter.
Jazak Allah.
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
In analysing the laws of Hurmat al-Musaharah:
- The general Hanafi view is that the rules of Hurmat al-Musaharah will only apply if a person experiences lust (Shahwah) while touching or kissing the hand. Furthermore, the Jurists have clearly specified the yardstick for determining `experiencing lust` as the `physical erection of the man`s private parts`. However, mere touching or kissing the hand, without any lust or evidence of lust, will not affect the marriage[1].
- Maulana Zafar Ahmad Uthman, in Imdad al-Akham [2: 811], states that Hurmat al-Musaharah will not apply where there is no claim of lust from the daughter in law or her husband, or any evidence denoting lust (Shahwah) involved from the father in law when kissing his daughter in law`s hand.
- Moreover, Hakim al-Ummat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi, in Al-Hilah an-Najizah [p.89-90], states that, when there is no evidence, the word and testimony of the father in law, in having lust or not, will be accepted if he is known to be just and reliable in his other statements and actions and there is no clear reason not to accept his word.
Accordingly, in the enquired case, Hurmat al-Musaharah did not take place and the Nikah remains valid.
References
[1] Majma` al-Anhur, 3: 61; Fat`h al-Qadir, 6: 379; Fatawa Qadhi Khan, 1: 177; Radd al-Muhtar ala ad-Durr al-Mukhtar, 3: 468]
[2] Maulana Zafar Ahmad Uthman, Imdad al-Akham, 2: 811, Maktabah Dar al-Uloom Karachi
سوال: ایک عورت دعوی کرتی ہے کہ اس کے خسر نے اس کے لب کا بوسہ لیا اور سینہ سے لگایا اور ایک مرتبہ مٹہائ بھی اس کے قبل زبردستی دبا کر سینہ سے لپٹا کر کہلائ تہی جو اس نے باہر حجرہ سے اگل دی ۔۔۔ خسر کی ایک تحریر جو خفیہ طور سے بہو کے نام آئ ھے یہ بتلاتی ہے کہ ان واقعات کا منشآ شہوت نفسانیہ ہے ۔۔۔
جواب ۔۔۔
اگر عورت دعوی نہی کرتی (اس وقت خسر کے عضو خاص میں انتشار پیدا ہو گیا تہا یا زیادہ ہو گیا) تو حرمت مصاہرت ثابت نہ ہوگی
[Imdad al-Akham, 2: 811, Maktabah Dar al-Uloom Karachi]
[3] Hakim al-Ummat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi, Al-Hiilah an-Najizah, p.89-90, Dar al-Isha`at Karachi
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Hanif Yusuf Patel
Student Darul Iftaa
UK
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.
References
[1] وفي التقبيل والمعانقة حرمت ما لم يظهر عدم الشهوة كما في حالة الخصومة ويستوي فيها أن يقبل الفم أو الذقن ، أو الخد ، أو الرأس وقيل إن قبل الفم يفتى بها وإن ادعى أنه بلا شهوة وإن قبل غيره لا يفتى بها إلا إذا ثبتت الشهوة ( بشهوة )
[Majma` al-Anhur, 3: 61]
وفي التقبيل إذا أنكر الشهوة اختلف فيه ، قيل لا يصدق لأنه لا يكون إلا عن شهوة غالبا فلا يقبل إلا أن يظهر خلافه بالانتشار ونحوه ، وقيل يقبل ، وقيل بالتفصيل بين كونه على الرأس والجبهة والخد فيصدق أو على الفم فلا ، والأرجح هذا
[Fat`h al-Qadir, 6: 379]
وأما المحرمة بدعوى الوطء إذا مسها أو قبلها بشهوة تثبت حرمة المصاهرة وإن أنكر الشهوة كان القول قوله إلا أن يكون ذلك مع انتشار الآلة والمباشرة عن شهوة بمنزلة
[Fatawa Qadhi Khan, 1: 177]
قلت: وخروج المس بغير شهوة بالإجماع غير موجب للحمل على المجاز، خلافا لما في البحر (قوله: ولا يحرم النظر) أي إلى ظهرها وبطنها ولا إلى الشعر والصدر بحر أي ولو بشهوة بخلاف النظر إلى الفرج بشهوة كما مر (قوله: للشفقة) أفاد أن التقبيل لا يحرم إلا إذا كان عن شهوة، وينبغي تقييده بأن لا يكون على الفم لأنه على الفم يوجب حرمة المصاهرة مطلقا تأمل
[Radd al-Muhtar ala ad-Durr al-Mukhtar, 3: 468]
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