Reconcilation after Divorce

Shortened Question:

  1. What level of intimacy cancels a Talaq in iddat?

  2. Is there a leeway for oral intercourse?


Assalaamuaualykum wa rahmathullah wa barakaathuhu. Dear respected and honourable Ulema. I hope and pray that you are all well. And your families also.

My question is twofold.

  1. After issuing Talaq and during iddat, what level of intimacy cancels the talaq. Is merely touching each other’s hands, full and complete intercourse or perhaps something in between.
  2. Is there any leeway or exception with regards the wife relieving the husband orally especially during her monthly cycle.

Shukran and please remember me and the Ummah in your khaas duas.

Was salaam.


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

  1. In order for us to respond, please clarify the nature of the talaaq (divorce). What were the words uttered for divorcing? How many talaaq (divorces) were given?
  2. It should be avoided[1].

However, you may refer to our previous fatwa (Question ID: 27692) found at: for alternatives during times when the woman is not be able to enjoy conjugal relationship with her husband due to illness, menstrual cycle, pregnancy etc.


And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Hanif Yusuf Patel

Student Darul Iftaa

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.



[1] في النوازل إذا أدخل الرجل ذكره في فم امرأته قد قيل يكره

[Al-Fatawa al-Hindiyyah, 5:372, Maktabah Rashidiyya]

إذا أدخل الرجل ذكره فم أمرأته فقد قيل: يكره؛ لأنه موضع قراءة القرآن، فلا يليق به إدخال الذكر فيه، وقد قيل بخلافه.

[Al-Muhit al-Burhani, 8:134, Idarah al-Quran; Fatawa Rahimiyyah, 10: 178, Dar al-Isha’at]

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Posted in Nikah & Talaq (Marriage & Divorce) on 26th Jan 2016 by Our Imam | 601 Views